Seeing as they were during V-Week and near the performance of the Vagina Monologues, you can’t say they weren’t timely. Whether you feel that they were “cowardly,” as one D opinion writer seemed to believe, or that they addressed a dark underbelly of campus that everyone knows about but rarely acknowledges, you certainly can’t say that they failed to elicit a reaction.
Because no matter what, we don’t seem to talk about it enough. As you may have guessed, “They,” refers to those who put up the signs at a number of fraternities, sororities, and Parkhurst. And “it,” of course, is sexism and sexual assault on Dartmouth’s campus.
As a male student, it’s hard for me to say what it is really like to be a woman on campus. I don’t get the same looks, the same reactions, and the same sexual norms and expectations imposed on me like females do at Dartmouth. Some of it is endemic in society, if not all over the world. Some of it stems from American culture, from our troubling media fascination with sexualized women and violence against them.
But some it also falls on us, Dartmouth students and community members, the inheritors of a College that just a few decades ago was dead-set against co-education and is still trying to cope with its consequences.
Anyone who has tried to change a culture, whether within a company, a bureaucracy, or a community, can tell you that the process requires more than a few months or even a few years. Even in a college environment, whose student body is entirely different every sixteen years, institutions persist. Whether it is the sports teams, or fraternities, or traditionally male-dominated social activities, power structures don’t just disappear. MAV (Mentors Against Violence) facilitations target sports teams, who mostly scoff and laugh at their message.
“Alternative social spaces” has become generic codeword for social spaces, mostly nonexistent, outside of the fraternities. The administration and endless committees perennially attempt to reduce sexual assault. It’s not to say we haven’t gotten better over time, but it certainly sounds like the hot-button issues remain the same, year after year.
But many rail against this description—specifically, “we,” the seniors. The intuitive reaction to these issues by many men is “I don’t do this. My friends don’t do this. This doesn’t concern us.”
And to not misrepresent campus sentiment, even many women dismiss the seriousness of the problem at Dartmouth.
Even those who pay lip service to how “bad” things are at Dartmouth often seem to feel that it’s an issue to trumpet, like poverty and world hunger—and not something that truly would ever affect them; it isn’t a problem for “us” anymore, they argue, and the attempt to describe it as such is just as misguided as trying to pin the blame for past discrimination on us.
What, after all, does the oppression of Native Americans have to do with today’s students? We were not the slave owners, the lynchers or the ones who passed Jim Crow. If those sins, traced down to our generation through blood, shouldn’t be pinned on us, then how can the sins of past classes, with whom few of us have a relationship, be passed to our shoulders?
Of course, as is true of racial discrimination, today’s harms are more subtle than the literal guns, germs, and steel of yesterday. They are more subtle than outright hatred and prejudice. Instead, harm lives on as the small accumulation of small advantages that we cannot see and we cannot feel.
For those who feel that these mean nothing, I would highly recommend Outliers by Malcolm Gladwell, who is far from a radical ethnic-theory apologist. The reason is the same as why children who start out younger in schools radically underperform their slightly more physically mature peers by a considerable order of magnitude. It’s the same reason why all of Canada’s elite hockey players are born, almost unfailingly, in the first three months of the year.
Our tiny advantages accumulate, giving us further advantages, which lead us to even further advantages.
It seems obvious in the case of a sports player who happens to perform better in tryouts because he feels particularly good one day—and gets further training, experience, and finally becomes far better than those who he pulled ahead of originally for no reason other than luck.
Why isn’t it the case in issues of racial discrimination? Why isn’t it the case in issues of sexual discrimination?
My own heritage precludes the “blood” argument. My parents came from Taiwan. Their parents came from China, though they moved to China when the Nationalist Army fled the Communists. Despite my roots on the other side of the world, I still reap the benefits of where I am at Dartmouth and where I am perceived in society. My own small advantages—having parents who, although they arrived on American shores with little more than $200, were well-educated and became computer engineers—added up to an Ivy League education and its perceived signal of my talent and ability.
If I were born in a Chicago slum and attended the city’s public schools, with their poor resources, and was without parents whose background enabled them to help me, would I have had achieved the same results? My own effort factored into it, no doubt—but the largest difference was nothing but blind luck.
I’ve wandered a long ways from the issue of sexism at Dartmouth. Perhaps that’s because it’s hardest to see what is closest to us—and it may be easier to recognize what sexism does with us here, and how we perpetrate it without meaning to, by first seeing a similar principle in action elsewhere. But another part of the issue is that, no matter what, I don’t know what means to be a woman at Dartmouth.
Being a racial minority—there I have a bit of experience. Economically disadvantaged—I have a bit of that too. But I don’t know what it is like to write a reasoned blitz to a professor and receive a response that essentially calls me an aggressive bitch. I don’t know what it’s like to have guys ogle at me and then tell me that I should be flattered. I don’t know what it is like to feel helpless against an assaulter bigger and stronger than me. I have seen all of it, at Dartmouth and outside of Dartmouth, but I don’t know what it is to experience it.
The reality is that it isn’t usually so blatant. Sexual assault is a serious issue. Overt sexism is a serious issue. But what is most virulent and corrosive in our community is the small uncertainty, the slightly imbalanced perception of “aggressiveness,” and the small feeling of expectation that women face.
These small things affect how a woman perceives her capabilities, which in turn affect her social standing—which change how she is treated. And on it goes, with small problems contributing to the larger problems, ones that still dog us nearly forty years after the first female Dartmouth students stepped onto campus.
It may seem hopeless. It may seem like a lost cause. The behaviors are so small and undetectable that we presume nothing but their gradual erosion through time will take away the problems that we inherit and become part of at Dartmouth. But time doesn’t seem to have done much in the case of our small behaviors and those small advantages and disadvantages.
I wish I could propose a solution that would solve everything, but I can’t. It isn’t as simple as moral platitudes. It isn’t just a matter of “thinking about what we do” or “speaking up.”
Such acts are inherently too fleeting and too contrived to maintain, making those who do maintain them seem banal or sanctimonious in our eyes.
All I do know is that we must first recognize these things as the problems they are, and take ownership of them as our own in all their ugly glory. Last week’s signs have done little to advance this particular goal, ultimately.
They painted with too broad a brush and highlighted only our most overt issues, issues their target audience has mostly shrugged off with righteous indignation. The signs fail to strike at core issues, and in so doing further perpetuated a feeling that our problems lie in intractably “big issues” rather than small ones.
Despite all of this, even without signs, we still do not talk about the issues. We do not think that they’re everyone’s problem. Although my own conversations with seniors have left me to think that many of us often come to the conclusion that great problems do exist on campus, they believe that it’s too late for us to spearhead a cultural shift. But that’s as far as it goes, just as it was for the seniors before them.
Much of our campus has taken a defensive stance towards the now infamous signs, and believes that they are an affront and a form of hatred themselves. I may not feel that these signs were our most prudent way of conveying a message, but I wouldn’t dismiss them.
They represent something that has happened year after year, as seniors attempt to convey to underclassmen the lessons that we have learned. It is a last cry to younger students to recognize and somehow break the cycle. Judging by our campus’ reaction, although the seniors may feel that these are our issues, there is clearly still work to be done before the rest of campus considers them their issues.







